Once I was a princess

by Jacqueline Pascarl | Biographies & Memoirs | This book has not been rated.
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Journal Entry 1 by -Xerxes- on Saturday, March 23, 2024
'I often wonder how many people can pinpoint the exact moment that their lives were changed irrevocably: smashed, redefined, uncategorised and forever divorced from the normal comprehension of their peers.'

In Melbourne, in the spring of 1980, Jacqueline Pascarl, then a trusting 17-year-old, met a young architecture student called Bahrin. they fell in love, made plans to marry and travelled to Bahrin's home, the oil-rich Islamic State of terengganu, where they prepared for life as a royal couple - he as a Malaysian Prince, and she as his wife, Lady Yasmin. And then, things began to go horribly wrong.

In this gripping account, Jacqueline Pascarl tells first-hand how a fairy tale turned sour; how her husband changed into a tyrannical, demanding stranger; how the royal compound she lived in became a prison until, at the age of 22, with her two young children, she returned to Australia. there, she fought to gain sole parental custody. Seven years later, the Prince exacted his revenge - kidnapping the children. What had up till then been a private drama now became an international news story, one with heart-breaking consequences.

Journal Entry 2 by -Xerxes- at Edgecliff Station in Edgecliff, New South Wales Australia on Monday, May 20, 2024

Released 1 wk ago (5/16/2024 UTC) at Edgecliff Station in Edgecliff, New South Wales Australia


This book is about a lady from Melbourne who married a Malaysian prince as a teenager, was abused, demeaned and thoroughly controlled by him before escaping a few years later, only to endure further horrors afterwards.

Often society portrays ideals such as marrying a prince as the height of female aspiration - but this is surely a bit misguided and unrealistic. The truth of it is, when there is a substantive power imbalance in a relationship, it is often not a pleasant experience for the low-powered partner. In this case the author was young, inexperienced and emotionally vulnerable (difficult childhood and family circumstances), whereas the Prince was several years older, very wealthy, very manipulative, powerful and came from a culture of ingrained misogyny and patriarchy. The poor girl stood no chance, really.

The fantasies she had of a romantic marriage to a caring and gentle partner were completely wrong, instead she found herself in a relationship in which she had no control or agency (not even access to her own funds), she was manipulated, beaten, raped, insulted, ordered about, emotionally abused. Perhaps equally horribly, her ordeal lasted for decades after her escape back to Australia. It is a good reminder of how prevalent domestic violence and misogyny still is in society, and how young girls should be taught to protect themselves against and recognise the red flags in charming but ultimately unpleasant or terrible men.

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