Men Explain Things to Me
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I don't know how I learned about this book, but I bought it a while ago and liked it very much.
I am sure also men get involuntarily informed about their own field by other people (maybe also mostly men) about what it really is about, but it happens to me A LOT. There was a time when I had the impression it got less with my age progressing, but now I think I only got used to it.
The pandemic is of course a great opportunity for experts of all kind, but also for mansplainers.
One of my favorite experiences:
I wrote to my member of Parliament of the Green Party that we doctors also have kids and that - rather absurdly - during the pandemic I have to reduce my working hours as a doctor because they close the schools. (So there was the small hint in it, that I might have some medical training.) I even wrote that I did not want an answer, I just want to express my protest. And I got a personal answer where he (trained as a salesman, no kidding) explains some basic epidemiology he just learned and almost got right.
Journal Entry 2
Wien Bezirk 03 - Landstraße, Wien Austria on Saturday, February 13, 2021
Released 9 mos ago (2/12/2021 UTC) at Wien Bezirk 03 - Landstraße, Wien Austria
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sent to the Netherlands for the tag game
Journal Entry 3
Heerenveen, Fryslân (Friesland) Netherlands on Sunday, February 21, 2021
Arrived yesterday. Thank you! I'm really happy about receiving this book. It's different than what I usually read and it's something I'm interested in.
I immediately sent a photo of the book to my sister-in-law because my brother keeps hovering and taking over whenever she's doing some DIY.
I feel women are often not allowed to make mistakes. We do it right right away or we're not doing at all; in the minds of men then.
I think this book is going to speak to me.
Journal Entry 4
Heerenveen, Fryslân (Friesland) Netherlands on Monday, June 21, 2021
As I get older I become more and more aware of the patriarchal society I live in. I have been a victim of spousal abuse. I left this man but since I have a child with this man the abuse hasn't really stopped. It just changed. It led to me having PTSS. To get help for me and my child I've discovered that it is so difficult to be understood. People keep second guessing you every step of the way. I keep second guessing myself every step of the way. To add insult to injury my ex-husband denies anything happened. I'm just a cunning woman, a crazy woman. It hurts. And this book pushed some of these buttons, because it's recognizable and infuriating that it happens and it's possible to get away with this behavior. I've been compared with a bunny in the headlights of a coming car. He barks, but at least he doesn't bite, they say.
In other words I should be thankful it's not worse. That's what we hear as women: 'don't be so hysterical, at least it isn't worse.' 'You're just trying to take our power away.' Damn right we try to take your power away, because all you do is wield it over us. As to the book: it pushed buttons, but I wish it had pushed some more. More insight in this struggle. I want to feel like jumping on the barricades right now. It didn't quite do that, but it's a good starting point.
Journal Entry 5
Heerenveen, Fryslân (Friesland) Netherlands on Saturday, June 26, 2021
Released 5 mos ago (6/22/2021 UTC) at Heerenveen, Fryslân (Friesland) Netherlands
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Traveling to Poodlesister.
Journal Entry 6
Walthamstow, Greater London United Kingdom on Wednesday, June 30, 2021
Thanks very much for the wishlist tag book. It looks very interesting.
Journal Entry 7
Walthamstow, Greater London United Kingdom on Friday, August 20, 2021
Just started reading the book. Reserving it for shnedwards who has it on her wishlist.
Journal Entry 8
Walthamstow, Greater London United Kingdom on Monday, August 23, 2021
This ends on a hopeful note but there is so much to be angry about. One of the women mentioned who got rape and death threats for campaigning for a woman to be on the £10 note is Caroline Criado Perez. She has since written Invisible Women: Exposing Data Bias in a World Designed for Men which is a bestseller and won a Royal Society Prize for Science Books award. I really recommend it if you haven’t read it. It will make you angry but has become a focus for campaigning for women’s needs to be taken account of in design, medical research and every part of life which is generally designed for the default male. You can also sign up for a weekly newsletter http://newsletter.carolinecriadoperez.com
Journal Entry 9
Wishlist tag, -- By post or by hand/ in person -- United Kingdom on Wednesday, August 25, 2021
Released 3 mos ago (8/29/2021 UTC) at Wishlist tag, -- By post or by hand/ in person -- United Kingdom
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This will be going to shnedwards as soon as I get back home. A UK wishlist tag.
Journal Entry 10
Birmingham, West Midlands United Kingdom on Friday, September 3, 2021
It's arrived! Thank you Poodlesister for the book, and the labels, and the chatty letter. Hope we get to meet up and chat in person again soon.
Journal Entry 11
Birmingham, West Midlands United Kingdom on Tuesday, September 14, 2021
I enjoyed the first essay very much. I remember the Twitter conversations that I read maybe around the same time this came out, or since, in which female academics shared their experiences of having things explained to them. They were funny and awful at the same time. The other essays I found a bit grim.
Available for now.